The Telephone Consulting I offer is on a "one-time only" basis. I do very little individual work these days—since my goal is to reach and help far more people than would be possible by working on a one-on-one basis.

(Basically, my approach is to identify and enlist others in making use of the information and resources I have accumulated over the years. Not only does this help more people now, but it also allows my work to continue to be helpful many years in the future, long after I'm gone.)

During my telephone consultations, I encourage people to find a local counselor if they want ongoing professional guidance. While some people would like to continue beyond this one-time talk, I personally feel it's critical for those who want ongoing support to work with a professional "in person." So I try to refer them to a counselor in their own area—and/or provide them with guidelines as to how to go about identifying an effective counselor.

The input I offer is based not on just my own ideas or theories, but on the feedback I have received from thousands of people during the past 26 years of working with this issue. In fact, each person is invited (not required) to send me an update about a year after the telephone consultation, with feedback as to how they proceeded and how it's working out. (This allows me to continue to stay "on track" in the perspective I am able to offer.)

While I provide information and perspective regarding a person's specific situation, I do not try to tell them precisely "what to do." My goal is to "empower" them to make their own choices—since they are the ones who will have to live with their choices.

In order to improve their chances of making the best individual choices in dealing with their situation, I do share "what usually happens" (or not) and "what usually works" (or not). I am committed to offering "information and perspective" rather than "advice." In fact, I encourage them not to focus on what they "should" do, but on what's the "smart" thing to do. This focus helps people be better prepared to make decisions based on rational thinking rather than emotional reactions.

I have posted a few brief Testimonials about previous telephone consultations.

In addition to providing a lot of perspective during the telephone session itself, I also follow up with several emails containing written material (including targeted previous responses to questions and some of my books) that more thoroughly cover some of the particular issues we have discussed on the phone.

I also give them an overview of the kinds of other resources that might be most helpful.
Here are some of the Resources I promote on this site:

--Links to most of the best sites dealing with affairs and other relationship issues.
--Book Reviews of the best books on affairs and marriage/divorce issues.
--List of Therapists (over 150 at this point) who are effective in dealing with affairs.