While this site is primarily devoted to dealing with extramarital affairs, it also includes information aimed at helping couples sustain a lasting love. (This is very different from sustaining "hot sex" or the "romantic feelings" of new love.)

So I want to encourage everyone to look beyond the first romantic stage of love and get a clearer understanding of what's involved in having a love that lasts.

So here are some suggested readings about "Love:"

Making Love Stay: Everything you ever knew about love, but forgot
This is a book James and I wrote to help remind people of all the things that make a difference in sustaining love over time.

The Changing Nature of Love
This is an excerpt from the above book that follows the progression of how love changes over time.

The Full Monty
This is an essay James and I wrote as our contribution to a book by relationship experts.
(For more on the book, see: Why Do Fools Fall in Love?)

Love is the Answer
This is a little inspirational piece about the need to make your primary love relationship a real priority in your life.

Please Trust Me
This is a poem James wrote many years ago that he initially published as a small book and then included in our book Beyond Affairs

Finally, here are a few more "romantic-oriented pieces."

Skin on Skin
This is a poem James wrote, which is included in my book,

Valentine's Message— 5 "Tips for Expressing Love" (click on each # for more)
These are excerpted from Making Love Stay and posted annually near Valentine's Day.

Poems of Love
These are two poems (written by friends) that are permanently posted on the site, but which I like to draw attention to at this time of year.