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Sexual Addiction?
by Peggy Vaughan

A sex addict is defined as a person who is addicted to the sexual experience and its surrounding behaviors. Some people see affairs as being caused by "sexual addiction." Even though sexual addiction includes deviant sexual behavior that has nothing to do with affairs, the term has been used to include ANY person whose sex life is destructive and out of control. Certainly there are sexual deviants in this society, but based on the large numbers of people having affairs, this is hardly "deviant" behavior.

While the term "sexual addiction" may be relevant in a few cases (perhaps 7 percent according to Patrick Carnes who coined this phrase), it's unfortunate that many people are tempted to grasp at this simple explanation as the cause of affairs—whether or not it fits. However, despite the problem of inappropriately labeling someone who has affairs as a "sexaholic," any genuine effort to understand and deal with this issue may be helpful to some people, especially when it involves getting more perspective of the consequences of their behavior and working to deal with the problems it has caused.

Adapted from The Monogamy Myth, Copyright 1989, 1998, 2012 Peggy Vaughan.

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